以下内容摘录自The Career Within You这本书。


优点1：真实性（Authenticity）


Only the shallow know themselves.


—Oscar Wilde


If you are a Romantic, the emotional depth you bring to your work shows in the outer world as your inability to accept a cheap substitute.


Your insightful comments show you have thought profoundly about your work. You shun light chitchat as too superficial, preferring to engage in significant matters, and you strive to find fresh ways of expression. Having you on the staff or in a social gathering adds a sense of gravitas.


Many Romantics appreciate the value of the unconscious rather than always trying to reason things out to get to the truth. As ministers and psychologists, they can also discern information and feelings on an intuitive level. Kate, a pastoral counselor, worked with a woman who was suffering from insomnia. Kate encouraged her to scrawl in a journal whatever came to mind in the middle of the night. The woman did that a couple of nights and discovered much of value she hadn’t known was on her mind. Opening herself up this way, she was able to alleviate stress and begin to sleep better and feel better.


优点2：同情心（Compassion）


Whether your job description calls for it or not, co-workers will value you for conveying compassion when a caring tone is needed. Since you are the person many of us would want to go to in a crisis for understanding or for dealing with a difficult situation, management would do well to appoint you to bring the news about layoffs or other hardships.


You maintain a strong heart connection because your rich internal life helps you share others’ emotional experiences. Medical professional Isabel felt such compassion and suffering for her patients that it was sometimes hard to hold back her tears. Betty was able to drink in the aesthetic experiences of her Romantic friend and intuit his feelings when he faced death from AIDS. He wanted to live as he was dying, and he wanted her to meet him on an emotional level. When he was near death, he needed nursing care, he needed to be hugged, and he needed honesty—and she could do that too. She could talk about death, which most of his other friends were unable to do.


Hilde always helps blind people trying to cross the street and brings home stray animals from work. She’s so sensitive, she used to cry watching Greenpeace commercials, and she gets depressed by the news.


优点3：创造力（Creativity）


If you are a Romantic, you will probably be inventive in either practical or imaginative assignments. Matthew is creative in a down-to-earth way. One morning he woke up full of energy and enthusiasm for remodeling his bathroom. He’d make it the most beautiful and functional room in his house. Overtaken by this flash of inspiration, he finished in almost no time at all. Jesse uses the combined imagination of a whole group for her best creative work in product development. Her favorite time is starting off a meeting with a blank piece of paper and beginning the process of bouncing ideas off one another.


优点4：解读能力（Interpreting Meaning）


Romantics who are especially gifted at interpreting meaning include orchestra conductors, mediators, and theater critics. In business, they may take a complex technical system and translate it for the sales force to understand by adding attractive visuals and putting the subject on a more accessible level.


Catherine was good at writing hand books because of her ability to empathize with the readers and make her writing understood. She turned to novels to show how people could lead lives that had more meaning than self-gratification. Her characters would start out being self-centered but in the end would learn that charitable actions not only help others but also influence those around them to be generous and aware of those in need. Meanwhile, she created meaning through the art itself.


When Kate worked in a cemetery, she helped people understand the choices they were making. She would explain the difference between having a memorial or a bronze plaque. Should they put Grandpa in the ground? Would it be okay to put him in a triple grave or a double grave? She would interpret what the symbolism meant. “I’d help them understand what they’d be giving and receiving.”


优点5：无畏（Dauntlessness）


Some of you are dauntless. Your courage can inspire others, stir things up, and lead people where no one has gone before. You’ll quit your job or change careers if something does not fit your values, and you’ll speak up if the subject means enough to you. The risk-taking actions you perform may come at key turning points in your career, accompanying your momentous breakthroughs. A bold move can seem necessary in order to claim your identity, express the truth, or facilitate a compassionate act.


Since Tiffany is drawn to drama, life and death, joy and grief, and to the macabre, unusual, and offbeat, she has no problem working in crime-scene cleanup or in a mortuary. She doesn’t want to keep the realities of life hidden. Elgar, too, has an interest in the offbeat. Owing to their unusual palette of ink colors, his posters were singled out among many submissions to be printed in a lovely coffee-table art book. He had carefully culled his palette from hundreds of photos of real suicide and murder victims in varying stages of decay. He sampled the colors of their putrefying flesh and wove them into cheery posters.


Romantics never plod through life or shy away from intensity. Some might face danger or even death working in a country undergoing a revolution if it means making the world a better place. Allan faced dangers when he performed acts of compassion around the world: “I worked in countries where people were being killed and had to think fast or I might be killed myself. I have also worked with tribal people who have AIDS.”


The following composer/pianist, dancer, and actor have all taken professional risks in their quests for self-expression.


缺点1：女主角心态（Diva Attitude）


You may experience a roller-coaster of contrasting feelings and attitudes about yourself, including sometimes feeling entitled. Loki said, “It’s a shameful indulgence, but my confidence was based on my sense of being better than those around me, so that I would stand out for being good at what I do.”


J.T. admits he can be a bit of a diva when doing something creative: “I feel like I am always the most talented and best actor in the plays I am in. I know the best way to do everything, and I get annoyed when the director goes off on a stupid tangent that has nothing to do with the show. I am less of a diva when I have a good director or am surrounded by quality people. When something magical happens and everyone is clicking, I focus less on being the most gifted here and more on creative aspects that are getting fulfilled.”


缺点2：羡慕（Envy）


Romantics are familiar with the all-consuming experience of feeling resentful from wanting what another has. Haythorp is tall and handsome and is a brilliant, top-notch speaker on science. The ladies all puff themselves up when he enters the room. He has what Evan wants, and Evan hates him for it.


Loki envies a former good friend who sometimes outshined him in performing music. Unfortunately, their friendship suffered when they compared themselves to each other. Loki wishes they could get past their egos and help each other by collaborating.


A mathematician acquaintance set out to solve the most difficult problem Helga had ever seen. She had thought she could prove this theorem after just a little more preparation, but this guy seemed to have so much more innate talent than she that she realized no training would ever compensate for it. Their mutual friends were in awe of his abilities, but she found herself seething with negative emotion.


缺点3：渴望（Longing）


As a Romantic, you may sometimes lament that something you had in the past is missing from your life. This longing can take you away from the here and now and hinder you from staying on task.


J.T. feels as though he’s been getting stuck with stage directors who don’t know what they’re doing…or if he were in a different play things would be better…or perhaps he should have taken that other role several months ago or…


缺点4：闷闷不乐（Melancholy）


Dark moods are not uncommon for Romantics. They may feel attached to a sad feeling that stops short of depression, a mood often referred to as “sweet melancholy.” Some are also prone to serious forms of depression.


Here are some job preferences that Romantics express. Do their perspectives sound familiar?




“I prefer working side by side at my job, or I tend to get depressed.”


“I easily absorb moods. When I realized how much I could be brought down by those around me, I found different people to interact with.”


“I feel melancholy when things can’t move forward, so I chose working for myself, which I control.”


The hardest thing about being a Romantic, to some, is the feeling of being on the outside looking in—as if they are not living their “true” life. But Romantics who are engaged in their work feel that their life has meaning.


As a Romantic, you may find that slipping into a bit of melancholy is not necessarily a bad thing for you. You may enjoy this emotion or feel that something creative is coming out of it. But the people you work with may experience melancholy as negative or too depressing. There are cases in corporate America where melancholy Romantics were pushed out of the company because they were misunderstood as “drama queens” or “bad apples.” Talking about the negatives at work gave their bosses the often-erroneous impression that they were not committed to solving problems.


缺点5：自我怀疑与羞愧（Self-Doubt and Shame）


As a Romantic, you may find that sometimes your self-esteem plummets so low it seems things will never go your way.


For example, at a meeting Annabel started talking to a man who turned out not to be who she thought he was—a case of mistaken identity. Instantly she felt ashamed, even though she realized that mistakes like this happen to everyone. Similarly, if anybody at work got cranky or if anything went wrong, Hai would feel it was his fault even though usually it wasn’t. Many Romantics have a tendency to feel they have let somebody down or have not done a good job—that they could have done more or should have done less.


Julianne used to get depressed when she heard about peers who were doing so much with their lives. She would wonder if she had neglected to develop her talents in design, music, dance, and acting. Then one day she said to herself, “Why can’t I do that when I see others seizing the opportunity?” So she started a program of taking classes, going to psychotherapy, and exploring new careers.

我意外地发现这本书已经有中文版了，下面我给出这段内容的官方翻译：


优点1：真诚


只有那些浅薄的人才了解自己。一一奥斯卡•王尔德


如果你是一个浪漫主义者 ，你带入工作中的情感深度将向外界显示，你不会接受一个品质低劣的替代者 。


你颇具洞察力的评论显示出你对自己的工作已经深思熟虑 ，你会避开那些太过肤浅的闲谈，把精力集中干那些重要事宜 ，你会致力于找到新的表达方式。有了你的存在，一个团队或者社交聚会会增加一种庄严感 。


许多浪漫主义者并非总是试图理智地分析事物 ，以求得到事实的真相 ，他们更重视下意识的本能的作用。作为牧师和心理学家 ，他们会在直觉层面来分辨信息和感觉。凯特是一位牧师 ，有一次她帮助一位患失眠症的妇女进行治疗。凯特鼓励她在夜深人静的时候，在一个记事本上把自己脑子里想到的东西随意地写下来。那位妇女这样做了几天 ，发现了许多自己以前未曾注意过的有意义的事情。通过这种方法打开思路之后 ，她能够逐渐减轻压力 ，睡眠状况也日渐改善。

优点2：同情


无论你的工作职责是否包含这一项，你的同事在需要别人的关心和怜悯时都会想起你来，他们在遇到困难时到你这里来寻求理解，公司的管理层也会指派你去宣布诸如解雇员工或其他一些尴尬的消息。


你会与其他人保持强烈的心灵方面的联系，丰富的内心世界使你能够分享他人的情感经历。医疗专家伊莎贝尔在面对患者的痛苦时，总是能感同身受 ，时常忍不住流下同情的泪水。贝蒂南一位罹患艾滋病的男性朋友濒临死亡，她能够从直觉出发感受对方的心理。他是如此地渴望生命，希望贝蒂能在情感层面与他对话。在这一刻他需要被人拥抱，需要坦诚地交流，而贝蒂能够与之谈论死亡这个话题，这是他许多别的朋友做不到的。


希尔德经常帮助盲人过马路，还把流落街头的小动物带回家照料。她非常多愁善感，看绿色和平组织的广告时经常会热泪盈眶 ，看到那些破坏环境的新闻时心情会十分低落。

优点3：创造性



浪漫主义者无论在做实际工作时，还是在完成需要想象力的任务时都会充满创造性。马修是一个脚踏实地的人 ，一天早上醒来后，他身上满是干劲和热情，要把洗手间重新改造一番 ，使它成为家里最漂亮 、功能最强的房间。就是这灵机一动的念头促使他很快便完成了任务。杰西在一家公司的产品研发部门工作，她善于集思广益，利用整个部门的集体想象力来完成创意性的工作。她最喜欢的时间就是开会时手里拿着一张白纸 ，然后开始头脑风暴，富有创意的想法一个个涌现出来。

优点4：理解意义


那些在理解意义方面具有特殊天赋的浪漫主义者适合从事乐队指挥 、调停人和戏剧评论家等职业。在企业里 ，他们可以担负技术部分的复杂工作，然后把它“翻译”给销售部门听，使之能够理解其中的意义 。


凯瑟琳擅长撰写宣传手册，因为她能够体会到读者的需求，让他们理解自己的话语。后来她转向小说创作，指导人们如何在自我满足之外寻求更大的生命意义。她笔下的角色开始时往往以自我为中心，但到后来逐渐认识到慈善事业不仅能帮助别人，还能使周围的人变得更加慷慨，关注那些需要帮助的人。与此同时 ，通过写小说这一行为本身她也创造了自己的生命价值。


在墓地工作的凯特会帮助人们理解他们所做的选择。她会解释举行追悼会和竖一块铜匾之间的区别。家属是否该把死者埋入地下？是用三层还是两层的坟墓？她会把这些不同的象征意义解释给死者家属。“我会帮他们了解自己在做什么，将得到些什么。

优点5：勇敢无畏


有些浪漫主义者勇敢而无畏，他们的勇气会感染其他人，激发他们的热情，引导他们向崭新的方向前进。如果一些事情有悖于你的价值观念，你会放弃自己的工作或改换职业，还会直言不讳地说出自己的想法。在你的职业生涯当中，这些冒险的行为往往会出现在关键的转折点，随之而来的将是具有重大意义的突破 。为了展现你的立场，表达事实真相以及促成一项善举，这种大胆的举动是非常必要的。


蒂凡妮对充满戏剧性，体现生与死、欣喜与忧伤，乃至那些令人毛骨悚然 、离经叛道的东西非常痴迷，她不介意在犯罪现场或者停尸间里工作，她不想去掩盖生活的那些真实侧面。和蒂凡妮一样，作为一名演员的埃尔加也对那些反传统的元素非常感兴趣。他的演出海报因其与众不同的色调被整理成一本画册出版 ，他仔细挑选了上百张自杀和谋杀场景的真实照片，里面的肉体已经显出不同程度的腐烂，他就用这种腐烂肉体的颜色组合成色彩鲜艳的海报。


浪漫主义者从不畏惧生活的艰辛，也不会在困境前退缩。如果他们所做的事能够使这个世 变得更加美好 ，他们会直面危险甚至死亡，在那些正经历着革命剧变的国家里工作。阿伦在世界各地做着帮助他人的善举，对他来说危险早已是家常便饭。“在我工作的国度里，人们遭受着野蛮的杀戮，我必须反应敏捷，否则也难逃厄运。我还要为那些患有艾滋病的部落居民工作。”

缺点1：主角心态


或许你有过这样的体验，对自己的感觉和态度像过山车一样急转突变。洛奇说：“说来有些惭愧，不过我的自信心是建立在一种优越感之上 ，认为自己比周围的人都强，我就是那么鹤立鸡群。”


J.T.承认在做一些创造性工作时自己有一种主角的心态：“在我演出过的戏里，我总感觉自己是最高天赋、最出色的演员。我对所有的方面都了解，如果有时候导演说话跑题了，我就会很生气。当我碰到一位好导演，周围其他人也非常优秀时，这种主角的心态就会减弱一些。”

缺点2：嫉妒


浪漫主义者对那种因为嫉妒别人而产生的痛苦煎熬的滋味一点儿都不陌生。海瑟普个子高大，英俊潇洒，还是位顶尖的演讲高手。当他走进房间时．屋子里的女性都会向他投来青睐的目光。他所拥有的这些都是艾文想要的，艾文因此对他心怀妒恨。


洛奇很羡慕从前的一个好朋友，那个人在音乐方面的才华让洛奇相形见绌。二人之间的互相攀比导致友谊破裂。现在洛奇希望他们能放下自负的心态，精诚合作。

海尔格是一位数学家，她有一个同行准备研究一道海尔格见过的最难的题。她本以为自己准备再充分一些就可以解开这道题，但那家伙天资极高，让她感到自己永远无法超越对方。他们共同的朋友都对他的能力心怀敬仰之惰，但海尔格却发现自己心里妒火中烧。

缺点3：渴望



作为一个浪漫主义者，有时你会因为一些曾经用过的东西从生命中消失而悲叹不已。这种感伤的情绪会使你丧失存在感 ，无法把精力集中于当前的任务上 。


J.T.总是觉得自己碰上的舞台导演都是些不学无术的家伙……要是参加另一出剧目的演出情况或许会好些……或者几个月前自己应该接下另一个角色，又或者……

缺点4：悲伤


阴郁的情绪在浪漫主义者身上并不鲜见。他们可能会被“甜蜜的忧郁”所控制，有些还可能染上比较严重的抑郁情绪。


下面几种情形是浪漫主义者在工作中表现出来的，听起来是不是很熟悉？


·“我喜欢和同事肩并肩地工作，否则容易变得心情郁闷。”


·“我容易感染别人的情绪，当意识到自己容易被周围的人搞得很泄气时，我会找不同的人进行交流。”


·“当事情进展不顺利时我就会感觉不舒服，于是我选择自己一个人工作 ，那样的话我能自己说了算。”

对于一些浪漫主义者来说，最难以忍受的事情莫过于一种站在身体之外向里看的感觉——似乎自己过的并不是“真正”的生活。但那些全心投入工作的浪漫主义者还是觉得生命是有意义的。


作为一个浪漫主义者，或许你会发现偶尔陷入一点儿忧郁的情绪当中未必是件坏事 。你可能很享受那种感觉，或者觉得从中会产生一些有创意的想法。但和你一起工作的人却会把忧郁看成是负面情绪。在美国的职场环境中，那些悲伤的浪漫主义者往往会被排挤出去，因为他们会被误认为是在小题大做，或是害群之马。在工作时谈论负面情况会让老板产生一种错觉，认为他们无意于解决问题。

缺点5：自我怀疑和内疚


浪漫主义者有时会发现自尊心一落千丈，事情永远不会按自己的意愿发展。


例如有一次开会的时候，安娜贝尔和旁边的一位男士聊了起来，结果发现自己认错了人，她顿时羞愧难当，尽管她意识到这种错误谁都可能会犯。与此类似的是，如果有人在办公室里大发雷霆，或者出了什么状况，哈伊都会把责任揽到自己身上，以为是自己做错了什么，其实事情并非如此。许多浪漫主义者都会有一种心理倾向，总感觉自己让别人失望，或者没有完成好工作。


当朱利安发现一些同事都在努力地提升自己的能力时，她感觉很郁闷，觉得自己忽略了对设计、音乐 、舞蹈和表演等方面天赋的开发。有一天她问自己：“我为什么不能像其他人那样抓住机会呢？”于是她参加了一个学习班，去进行心理治疗，并设法寻找新的职业。